🌷🌺🌷 MARRIAGE AND FREEDOM!!

 Looking at my past case study and analysis, one of the top and first reasons in divorces is seeking of “independent life" after marriage.

What is meant by Independence in a positive note?

Independence in finance, independence in learning how to cook, giving support to each other in adverse conditions, independence in thoughts- Having a peaceful mode of discussion and understanding the things from a different perspective.

Such kind of independence brings stability and peace in a relationship. So it is a win-win situation for both the partners.

The kind of independence which they want involves not taking permission or the approval of their partners, not updating them about their plans and actions. They don’t want to make adjustments in their lifestyle and expect their partners to be okay with it. And if both the parties refuse to make adjustments then they ultimately end up separating from each other. This attitude doesn't reveal your independent life but a life surrounded by Ego.

This is the main and the top most reason of the failure in a marriage.

If we have such an attitude and continue to have it your entire life then you shouldn’t marry and spoil someone else’s life.

Marriage means Mutual Understanding, Mutual Respect, Mutual  Sharing, Mutual - Transparency.

If the ‘Mutual’ is kissing then everything else goes down the drain.

We expect our partner to be broad minded and understand our positive independent thoughts without changing ourselves.

That's why I always mention in my workshop, that if you can't work with or under someone, then don’t waste time, money and energy in that company. Start your own business and be independent.

Whatever act you do without informing your partner, however sacred and social it might be from your perspective, it is not quite right when you are keeping him in the dark. Do that job with the knowledge of your partner since you are accountable to him.

They might never doubt your or interfere in your matters which makes it a more of your responsibility to tell them everything they need to know. The first crack in any relationship is caused by mistrust. For instance, if any other person tells them, "We saw your spouse partying in a hotel. Were you not there?” It will definitely hurt them because they weren’t aware of your whereabouts.

The heart is like a mirror, it can be replaced but not repaired if broken completely.

So if you want to live a happy married life, make sure that everything that you do in our personal or professional life is informed or shared with your better half.

When we hide any information from our spouse, those hidden and suppressed information becomes a ball of negative energy which vibrates at such a high level of frequency that it reaches to our partner in no time. And they suddenly start to doubt our every move and action. This is the natural law of energy. 95% of people think that the other person will never find out about their suppressed actions but what they are not aware of is that no action can be hidden and eventually your partner will find out about them.

That's why in any theft/murder case some or any evidence is left behind by the doer even if he is a professional. The truth may not come out for a long time but eventually it will. Nature never spares them.

Yesterday, a wife came to me after 3 months of the death of her husband. She was suffering from financial issues. I knew her husband as he was my client of 6 years. As far as I knew he was financially sound.

He had invested money in many real estates, share market etc. But he never revealed these details and papers to his wife.

But due to his sudden death ..today the wife and kids are facing such a financial issue that they shifted kids education from best convent  school to public school ..as they can't bear high fees ..

Had the husband informed or updated his investment details ...than such condition would have never come.

So if we are married ...we are married not just by bodies ...but we also become responsible & accountable towards each other in our every act, habit and behavior n action with outside or inside world..

(Courtesy: From my book - Journey from signature to Autograph) 

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